http://www.babiesonline.com/articles/grandparenting/granavoidfavorite.asp Babies Online Articles and Information Thu, 09 Feb 2012 14:24:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://www.babiesonline.com/articles/grandparenting/granavoidfavorite.asp/comment-page-1#comment-6398 Disgruntled Tue, 06 Sep 2011 18:52:57 +0000 http://208.79.203.56/articles/grandparenting/granavoidfavorite.asp#comment-6398 My Mother in law is like this. She has 4 grand kids. 2 of them are biological (B and my daughter) and 2 are through marriage (A and D). B and A are sisters, and when my daughter was born, B was shown favoritism. Then when D was born she was shown favoritism and it has stayed that way. My inlaws have spent a total of 7 weeks with D so far this year, 3 or 4 weeks with B and A, and haven't come to see my daughter ONCE! My daughter is at that tender age where she can tell when she's being excluded, and now she doesn't even want anything to do with them and they can't figure out why. When I called them out on the favoritism, they flat out denied it, then went to see D again. O_o My Mother in law is like this. She has 4 grand kids. 2 of them are biological (B and my daughter) and 2 are through marriage (A and D).
B and A are sisters, and when my daughter was born, B was shown favoritism. Then when D was born she was shown favoritism and it has stayed that way. My inlaws have spent a total of 7 weeks with D so far this year, 3 or 4 weeks with B and A, and haven’t come to see my daughter ONCE! My daughter is at that tender age where she can tell when she’s being excluded, and now she doesn’t even want anything to do with them and they can’t figure out why. When I called them out on the favoritism, they flat out denied it, then went to see D again. O_o

]]> http://www.babiesonline.com/articles/grandparenting/granavoidfavorite.asp/comment-page-1#comment-553 angry Wed, 26 Nov 2008 19:25:57 +0000 http://208.79.203.56/articles/grandparenting/granavoidfavorite.asp#comment-553 I really appreiciate this article. I have a 3 year daughter who just recently got a new baby cousin. She seems to like the baby but, is constantly asking me where her grandma is. She says," she's with (baby's name)?" I just tell her that she is at home. I can see the hurt in my daughter at 3 and I know it will get worse as she gets older. I wish my mother in law would see the hurt too. I was prepared for this before the new baby was even born but, I don't think I was prepared enough. I would never say anything to my mother in law because somehow I would get the blame for it. She is retired and cannot work around my work schedule but, I am expected to work around hers. I just keep reassuring my daughter that she is important and that seems to help. Grandparents need to be more aware. My grandma always made it a point to feel worthless and the truth is I ended up resenting her for it. If things don't change my daughter will end up doing the same thing and there is nothing I can do about that. So, think before you act. I really appreiciate this article.
I have a 3 year daughter who just recently got a new baby cousin. She seems to like the baby but, is constantly asking me where her grandma is. She says,” she’s with (baby’s name)?”
I just tell her that she is at home. I can see the hurt in my daughter at 3 and I know it will get worse as she gets older. I wish my mother in law would see the hurt too. I was prepared for this before the new baby was even born but, I don’t think I was prepared enough. I would never say anything to my mother in law because somehow I would get the blame for it. She is retired and cannot work around my work schedule but, I am expected to work around hers. I just keep reassuring my daughter that she is important and that seems to help. Grandparents need to be more aware. My grandma always made it a point to feel worthless and the truth is I ended up resenting her for it. If things don’t change my daughter will end up doing the same thing and there is nothing I can do about that. So, think before you act.

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