Pregnancy is an amazing time for all family members. There are many new experiences and emotions that will be shared and experienced. All too often our canine family members are not included. Many families believe it best that they re-home their dog due to the changes and not knowing how to manage it all. Many families have concerns about safety. It is rare that a dog can not stay safely in its current home after the arrival of a baby. There are many proactive steps that can be taken ahead of time to help things go smoothly. Obedience, leadership as well as management are all essential to providing a safe and comfortable environment for all.

It is strongly recommended that you attend an obedience class regardless of the age of the dog. Obedience encourages bonding, self control and mental stimulation. Shop around and find a program that fits your goals and needs. I recommend you start by gathering information about dog trainers in your area. A helpful website is The Association of Pet Dog Trainers. (www.apdt.com). Here you will obtain much information and will know a bit more of what to look for in regards to a training and manners program. There are many wonderful trainers. Take your time and select the one that listens and understands your family goals.

Leadership is essential to our canine companions. It is important that your dog knows he can trust you to be the “leader.” When you bring a dog into your family you become their pack. The leader of the pack communicates a sense of safety and trust that makes it clear to the dog that things are under control. It is important that the dog knows that his leader is capable of handling this role or the dog may decide to take charge himself. Many times confusion about leadership roles can lead to undesirable behavior and sometimes injury.

Leaders: Have control of the resources the dogs need, crave and enjoy. Asking your dog to sit, down, perform several commands will help communicate you are the leader. Here are some examples of ways you can be a leader.

1. Decide when you want to feed your dog, not allowing them to “control” this by barking, nudging or any other demanding behavior.
2. Having your dog/s sit and wait for a release command before entering or exiting your home.
3. Having your dog walk close to you allows you to monitor the environment and keeps your dog close in case of a passer by, loose dog, running child or any other potential situation.
4. Ignore demanding behavior for your attention such as pawing, nudging, whining.
5. Keep playtime fun but under control. Your ability to regain your dogs attention when excited is very important and a great demonstration of leadership.
6. Demonstrate overall confidence in expectations.
7. After being away, calmly return to the pack without a fuss or huge greeting celebration.

If you are having issues with your dog you may want to consider how leadership is represented in your home. This combined with obedience can lead to a successful and harmonious relationship. If you feel that you may be having issues regarding leadership in your home, I suggest you contact a canine behavior consultant or trainer prior to the arrival of your baby. If you have experienced aggressive behavior with your dog please consult your vet. You may need to seek the help of a behaviorist in your area. Your vet can help guide you in the right direction. Many dogs respond extremely well with obedience and leadership well established. There may still be times however that management is necessary for all.

Management may still be necessary with your dog. There will be many visitors and lots of commotion during the time of the baby’s birth. If you have a dog that is fearful of guests and you have people over, you may choose to “manage” the situation and remove the dog to a quiet secure space where he feels safe. Setting our dogs up for success is key. Allowing them to practice a negative behavior is reinforcing that behavior. There are times that crating and removing the dog may be temporarily a better solution instead of risking a negative consequence or a chance to practice unwanted behavior. If you choose to crate the dog please keep in mind that this is not punishment. It is allowing a safe place for your dog. Reinforce this by providing a special treat for them each time they are in their crate. Stuffing a toy with peanut butter and kibble is one idea. There are many ways to make this a positive and welcoming den for your dog.

It has been our experience that with leadership, obedience and management, canine family members welcome the arrival of a baby with wagging tails! After all, their leaders are happy so they should be too! Congratulations and enjoy!

Family Paws encourages you to never leave an infant or child unsupervised with a dog or puppy! Even good dogs have tolerance limits. Expecting a child and dog to “work it out” is not realistic and can be extremely dangerous! Always be aware of the interaction between your child and any dog. Any dog no matter their breed, color, size, age and past experiences can lead to an amazingly great outcome or potentially dangerous outcome. Your involvement and instincts play an important role!

For More information please contact Jennifer Shryock at jen@familypaws.com or visit http://www.familypaws.com to learn more!

Young children often have imaginary friends. Sometimes they’re human, other times they’re animals, like the life-size rabbit in the old Jimmy Stewart movie, “Harvey.” Sometimes the imaginary friend is an occasional visitor, stopping by only once every few days. But other times it may be a child’s constant companion.

Children may talk to their imaginary friends, draw with them, or even read books to them. And plenty of parents have had to set an extra place at the dinner table for the “friend.” So are children’s imaginary playmates cause for concern? In most cases, the answer is No. Imaginary friends are a pretty normal part of growing up—especially during the toddler years—and they serve several important functions:

As your grandchild or grandchildren increase in age, you may find them speaking with you more, especially on a more personal and private level. This is most often the case when you maintain a constant presence in your grandchild’s life. The conversations that you discuss will likely mature in content, as your grandchild increases in age. While you may hear about fun and exciting adventures, you may also hear things that cause you concern. But, are these conversations ones that should be repeated?

When it comes to grandparent confidentiality, there are some unwritten rules that should apply. One of those rules is that you should respect your grandchild’s request of privacy and confidentiality if no harm is done. For instance, your grandchild may talk about an art project in school that they plan to give their mom or a new crush that they may have on a fellow classmate. These are conversations and instances in which no harm will come from you staying quiet.

On the other hand, there are instances in which you will want to speak up. These are instances in which you feel that your grandchild is in danger. For example, did your grandchild recently tell you that they were bullied at school? Are they in an abusive relationship or where they touched inappropriately? If these are conversations that you have with your grandchild, you will want to take action immediately. Depending on the situation at hand, you may want to speak with their parents, school officials, or the proper authorities.

One of the biggest concerns that grandparents have with confidentiality is ruining the trust that they have developed with their grandchildren. Once that trust is broken, many grandparents are worried that it will never be repaired. While this feeling is completely normal and the result may include a strained relationship with your grandchild, it is important that you keep their health and safety in mind. As much as you would like to respect confidentiality requests, it is your responsibility, as a grandparent, to offer protection, even if they feel it isn’t needed.

There are many details to remember when it comes to baby proofing your home and many times there are things you may miss in the process. The first suggestion many will give you is to get down on your hands and knees so you can see the world from your babies point of view. There may be something that your baby can see, being down low, that you can’t. If you get down to your baby’s level you can catch all those little details.

Speaking of Little…
Remember to pick up any and all little items left on the floor. Anything your baby picks up will eventually find its way to his mouth. These little things can be easily swallowed by your baby causing him to choke. It is best to keep anything that can fit into a roll of toilet paper up out of your baby’s reach.

Electrical Items
You have to be very careful about electrical outlets and cords. Babies can take smaller items, and stick them in an outlet resulting in electrocution. They can also get tangled up in the electrical cords themselves, or possibly even start chewing on cords when they are teething. They have outlet covers that you can buy at your local store and cord covers which keep the cords away from your baby’s reach.

Drawers and Cabinets
It is important that you install cabinet and drawer locks on your cabinets and drawers. When your baby is crawling and walking he can get into things and places he shouldn’t be getting into. Often cabinets contain poisons and sharp objects and other things nut suitable for baby. Your baby can get into these items and hurt himself before you even realize he is in danger, so it is best to get the cabinets and drawers secured as early as possible.

Sharp Corners
An area you need to make sure is baby proofed that many people do not remember is the corners of your counters and furniture. Many times your couch or tables will have pointy sharp corners on them that your baby will eventually run into resulting in head injury. Luckily there is a solution for the sharp corners as well. You can actually buy corner protectors to put on your tables and counter that round them out so when your baby does run into them, they do not get hurt.

Glass Doors
If you have a big glass patio door, you can’t forget about it! When clean these are often completely see through, and to a baby just learning to walk or a toddler, they can be hurt by running into them. If you have a glass door stick some window appliqués on them at your child’s level so they see them when they are walking around and do not hit the glass full force.

Swimming Pools
Not only dangerous during the summer months, but year round as well, poola are VERY dangerous. If you have an above ground pool you should drain it if possible during the month’s it’s not in use. If you do not have an above ground pool make sure you have a locked gate surrounding your pool, and a cover that your baby can not fall through. Your baby can drown in as little as 2 inches of water, so it is best to not take chances.

Stairways
If you have stairs in your home it is simple to protect your baby from taking a dangerous fall. Invest in a couple of inexpensive baby gates to put at the top and the bottom of the stairs. This will keep your baby from crawling up, and from falling down the stairs possibly causing serious injuries.

Baby proofing your home is a very important detail that shouldn’t be overlooked. In the end it is the health and safety of your baby that is at stake, and making sure your baby is protected is worth all costs.