How to Handle Your Child’s Tantrums
by Gary Hendricks
Oh gosh … he’s at it again! Wailing and crying for God knows what reason. Do you have a problem with your child’s tantrums? Here’s a quick guide on how to handle them during those stressful moments.
Why Do Children Throw Tantrums?
Studies have shown that when children throw tantrums, they do not mean to be rude or manipulative on purpose. At their age, toddlers are just beginning to understand a lot more of the words they hear. However, given their limited vocal skills, they can’t communicate easily. And when your child can’t express how he feels, frustration mounts.
How Should I React?
Ok, most important rule is … don’t lose your cool. Repeat … don’t lose your cool. He or she may be making a huge scene in the public, embarrassing you in front of the in-laws, it doesn’t matter. Just grit your teeth and bear with it. My suggestion is to just sit down and be with your child while he or she rages.
I know it’s tough - particularly in public. Just try to stop thinking about what others think, any parent out there would understand the situation. Do not concede and give in. If you concede, you will be teaching your child that throwing a tantrum will allow him or her to get what they want.
If, however, your child gets to the point where they start hitting people or throwing things, just pick him up and carry him to a safe place, such as his bedroom. Explain in a firm voice why he’s there (e.g. “because you hit Grandma”).
Preventive Measures
Taking preventive measures also works. If you know your kid gets frustrated when hungry, carry snacks along with you. If you’re going from one place to the next, alert your child and let him know (e.g. “After you finish your storybook, we’re going for dinner”).
If all else fails, do consult your pediatrician who can give expert advice on your child’s tantrums and check if there are any physical or psychological problems.
About the Author
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